I'd rather masturbate than have sex with my boyfriend.


 

Partnership sex is not always the ultimate. But this does not always have to be because sex with the treasure is not fun. There are many other good reasons why some women prefer to do it for themselves rather than involve their loved ones. Here you can find out what these are and what they say about the relationship.

Masturbation in the relationship?
If the relationship is basically good and the sex is somewhere between good and super, there is no reason to stop masturbating despite the relationship. On the contrary. Because it has so many positive effects on our body and psyche that there is no valid counterargument. Except, of course, when masturbation mutates into addiction. But fortunately, most people are far away from that.

Why masturbation is sometimes better...
Once a woman has figured out the trick for herself, how to get a good orgasm by masturbating, this soon becomes her fastest, most comfortable, most reliable and therefore often preferred way to climax. And people like to be comfortable. Nothing is reprehensible about that. It only becomes a problem when sex with your partner is only an unpleasant option and you almost do without it completely, because it is still most beautiful with yourself.

With men, however, it is also the case that they do it themselves in a certain way that works reliably and quickly. Men also find the initiation, the erection pressure and so on sometimes exhausting. And as women are often more demanding or complex than men when it comes to initiation and susceptibility to disruptions, even the guys sometimes prefer to take the matter or their penis into their own hands. So both often sit in the same boat without knowing it from each other. Because many couples do not tell themselves when they are satisfied alone.

No orgasm through the penis?
Many women have a much higher chance of orgasm when having sex with themselves than when having sex with their partner. One of the reasons for this is that women stimulate themselves quite differently when masturbating than a man can with a woman with his penis. Many women do not reach orgasm at all when they are penetrated by men. And this is not only experienced (by both) as frustrating, but also often not pronounced. So sex with your partner is not much fun in the long run. Unfortunately, many women do not dare to tell their partner. Often out of helplessness, how one could change something about it. In the long run, however, it will lead to frustration to want to compensate for the lack of good two-seater sex with masturbation.

What Solosex lacks...
Sooner or later it will certainly not be fulfilling to permanently prefer masturbation to man. Because sex with him can have a special quality even without orgasm and strengthen the bond. Sex with penetration (penis in vagina) can therefore create a closeness that other areas of life cannot create in this form. This works more on the relationship level than on the body level. If there is little or no sex for two and also no other physicality, a feeling of distance to the other can develop more easily. This does not mean that the relationship is bad or soon over. But it changes the partnership when physical attraction and excitement are no longer common issues.

Why we avoid talking about sex...
To discuss as a couple that sex is not very fulfilling and to look together for a solution is still extremely shameful even in our enlightened society. No one wants to give the other the feeling that he or she is doing something wrong or "not doing it right". You don't immediately have a solution or are uncertain when it comes to trying out new things. That's the way many people do it and instead of being open with it, you wash your way through it. And that's a pity. Because often one can improve with open words and the readiness something to learn further also the two-seam sex.

 

Masturbation - No longer a taboo topic!

When the willingness to exert oneself diminishes...
But it may also be that the quality of the relationship has deteriorated in such a way that one or both of them are no longer willing to make the effort associated with initiating two-sample sex. To take care of oneself, to flirt, to seal one's eyes to the other or to ensnaring and seducing him, then to experience mediocre sex and afterwards to have to take a shower to feel fresh again - there is no good relationship between effort and benefit. That may sound economical. But sometimes that's the way it works in relationships. And the quickie with itself is simply the better alternative in the short term.

Tips and help: How sex in twos can be fun again...
However, those who notice that they would actually like the man, but the sex is so unsatisfactory that the vibrator is preferred, should take this seriously and seek the open conversation. That's how many couples feel, even if only a few talk about it. And no master has fallen from the sky during sex either.


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